I’ve been trying to decide how to start this post, but I think I will just dive in and write however it comes out. I work as a server in a restaurant and we have two distinctive sets of staff: the servers, who we call the front staff and the kitchen staff, which includes the cooks and dishwashers. It is a little sad to admit this, but at times, the kitchen staff don’t treat the front staff with very much respect. In my opinion, they think we are stupid and “lower” than them on some kind of scale. At some points during our day (usually at our busiest time when everyone is stressed out) they yell at us and say very mean things. They take their frustration and stress out on us. If we try to defend ourselves, they get mad and argumentative. We do talk back to them, but they will very rarely let the issue drop. They always have to have some kind of terrible retort and according to them, are always right and never make mistakes. Ugh. Sure, some of the staff are nice, but each of them have a mean streak that they don’t always have enough common sense to hide. They are two-faced, in a way. Anyway, I am so sick of seeing my myself and my co-workers being treated like dirt. It’s disgusting. The front staff would never talk to the kitchen staff like they speak to us. It’s like they were born without manners. Yes, we all get mad and frustrated, but the thing is to think before you speak. Treat others as you wish to be treated.
The reason I am posting this is we have one particular cook who the worst bully of them all. She is 35 years old and it seems as if she is still in junior high. She talks about people behind their backs and laughs openly. She will call us names to our faces and always has something cruel to say if we make a mistake on an order. Then all of a sudden she will take a 360 degree turn and start being super nice to us. What the hell. It is so confusing. However, her bullying is to the point where I am sick of dealing with it. I really can ignore it no longer. She is a bully and needs to be taught that there are certain ways you should and shouldn’t act. I mean, GROW UP!
On this past Saturday, this particular cook asked me if I would give her a ride to our company Christmas party on December 12. She asked me on my first day back from vacation and while I was super busy. I was taken off guard, and not wanting to be rude, I said I didn’t see any reason why not. So I was then stuck with having to drive her. I want to try to be nice to her, but it’s hard to be civil when she is such a mean person back to me. She’s nice to me when she wants something, which makes it even worse.
Yesterday, I had an instruction on one of my bills and she had to ask me what it was. The instruction was a little confusing, but I told her what I needed. She turned away and almost immediately, I heard her call me a dingbat to one of the other cooks. Umm, what?! Fist of all, it’s what the customer wants and the customer is always right. Second of all, I could still hear her!! Doesn’t she have any common sense? Apparently not.
So this morning I told her I would be unable to drive her to the Christmas party. I don’t feel bad. She is a bully and she needs to learn that there are consequences for her actions. She can go ahead and find another way to the party. I do not want anything to do with her. I have tried to get along with her, but I am sick of the bullying. It needs to stop. I am not the only one who thinks like this either. All of the front staff agree with me and they are not going to put up with it any long either. We all need to stand up for ourselves and stop the bullying once and for all. We will go to the management if necessary. It is NOT OKAY to treat people like dirt. It makes for a very unpleasant work environment.
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